I desperately wanted to do a blog on this subject because things are changing so rapidly nowadays that its almost as if the human conventions can’t keep up. I’ve seen a lot of people get bogged down by what others are doing and achieving on social media and the negative effects of envy.
Does this look familiar?
From day dot we are led to believe that the standard trajectory of life goes as follows – Qualifications, meet someone, buy a house together, get married, have a child or children – job done. Obviously, in between there are purchases and trips and many other conventional things, however as a staple, these tend to be the things, we base the progress of our lives on.
Now it’s always good to have aims and as someone who pretty much lives off a checklist, aims are very important to me, but these life aims seem to hinder me more than they motivate. We don’t take into consideration economy, lifespan or fertility when we start out on the journey of life and even now, we know they are there but we don’t amend the life goals because of them we simply punish ourselves for still not achieving them!
Let's look into a bit more detail…
Money makes the world go round right? But how many of us rely on money to determine our personal achievement or let it drive our mood?
Let’s narrow it right now…we need money to achieve the life goal of owning a home, right no problem- understood. We don’t stop to think about what the state of unemployment is, we don’t look at the economy and work out whether this is feasible. My parents could afford a home at 18 years old, my nana brought her house for thousands, not tens of thousands or hundreds of thousands and that was the norm, it is not the norm now! It's not the cost of living and pounds and pence I’m looking at here, simply that what used to be normal now isn’t, for many complex reasons and yet we don’t give ourselves a break! We are still trying to reach those goals in the same time scale.
That's about the size of house I can afford! >