How to Reduce Anxiety: Personal Tips That Actually Work

Living with anxiety is different for everyone, and reducing anxiety often means finding your own system of management. In this post, I’ll share some tried-and-tested anxiety management techniques that helped me take control.

1. Knowledge Is Power—Map Your Anxiety First

For a while, you might not know what is happening, and for some (like me) it might take you by surprise. I didn't acknowledge my anxiety disorder until it became more frequent. Anxiety is fed by fear, I had to understand what my primary fears were:

• Why didn't I want to leave the house?

• What am I scared is going to happen?

• What's the worst thing that could happen?

Before you jump into quick fixes, spend a week or two simply observing your body and mind:

Self‑Check Prompt	Why It Matters
When do I feel my heart race?	Pinpoints patterns (e.g., mornings, meetings).
What thoughts loop the loudest?	Reveals core fears to address later.
What physical sensations kick things off?	Helps you spot an attack before it peaks.

Anxiety manifests as fear. I have discovered my fear, and I have acknowledged and claimed that fear, making it more bearable. Unlike a fear of heights or spiders, you can’t simply ignore an anxious fear, it's usually something debilitating that interferes with everyday life. For me, my fear is being sick or ill in a public place or in front of people, if I was to apply the same logic to that as my fear of heights, I would just simply have to avoid being in the presence of any people or any place, which is where I ended up.

It might sound very silly to some and even to me! but by putting in the work and discovering the cause a lot of the fear reduced and although I'm still weary it doesn't prevent me from living my life anymore.

The Discovery Journal: Unearth Hidden Triggers

Neurodiverse Discovery Journal

A journal does wonders; but a Discovery Journal goes deeper in terms of reducing anxiety long-tern by tracking:

• Date, time, location of anxiety spikes

• Preceding events (skipped lunch, scrolling social media, argument)

• Body sensations (chest tightness, sweating, dizziness)

• Automatic thoughts (“I’ll embarrass myself”)

• Response chosen (breathing, walking, calling a friend)

• Outcome 

Review weekly to spot patterns you never noticed and once you see the pattern, you can break it.

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Other Helpful Tools to Help You Understand Your Anxiety:

• Therapy: Speaking to a mental health professional can uncover the deeper roots of your anxiety. Therapies such as CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) help you track thought patterns and reframe unhelpful beliefs. (More detail later on)

• Mood tracking apps like Moodpath or Daylio: These digital journals allow you to quickly track moods, symptoms, and routines over time.
  

Taking this investigative approach is empowering. When you begin to understand the why, you gain more control over the how to cope.

2. Understand the Full Stress Response: Fight, Flight, Freeze and Flop

Most of us know fight or flight, but the nervous system actually offers four automatic options:

1. Fight – The immediate reaction fight with blood being redirected to muscles in preparation. Includes agitation, anger, muscle tension.

2. Flight – The immediate reaction to move, run. Urge to leave, restless legs, shallow breathing.

3. Freeze – Inability to do anything. The mind goes blank, body feels stuck on the spot.

4. Flop – Sudden exhaustion, collapse, “I can’t move.”

Recognising which mode you slip into lets you choose the right counter‑strategy—for example, a frozen state responds better to gentle movement than to deep breathing alone.

A person who suffers from an anxiety disorder will often adopt the nervous system response. This is a biological response the human body will kick start when we are put in a life-or-death situation. An anxious person will feel this response when faced with a situation out of their control or when their fear is apparent in a particular atmosphere whether that be a life-and-death situation or a trip to the shops. Our brains are not designed to deal with the level of stress we now feel on a daily basis and it will react against it. This pattern of stress causes our brains to feel overwhelmed and what seems like an everyday task is now extremely stressful for those who suffer anxiety. Taking the time to understand your surroundings and asking yourself "Is my life in danger" can substantially calm you down for a short period of time.

Here are some other techniques which may be beneficial when you feel that nervous system response kick into high gear:

Distraction Techniques to Reduce Anxiety Fast

Technique	How to Do It	Works Best For
4‑7‑8 Breathing	Inhale 4 s → hold 7 s → exhale 8 s (repeat ×4)	Fight / Flight
5‑4‑3‑2‑1 Grounding	Name 5 things you see, 4 you feel, 3 you hear, 2 you smell, 1 you taste	Freeze
Temperature Reset	Splash cold water on face or hold an ice cube for 30 s	Flop (low energy)
Progressive Muscle Relaxation	Tense each muscle group 5 s, release 10 s, work head‑to‑toe	Fight (tight muscles)
Box Breathing with Movement	Step forward, left, back, right while inhaling‑hold‑exhaling‑hold 4 s each side	Flight (restlessnes

When thinking about the immediate effects of anxiety such as an attack, slowing your mind down is crucial. You become very aware that no one can see you are panicking and that is almost worse because you then give yourself the added pressure of “remaining normal”. Tactics such as listing things you can see, feel and smell really help to occupy your brain. I tend to start singing, talking or humming, engaging in something else allows me to stay grounded. Doing something physical and setting yourself a task often allows you to remind your brain that you are in control.

Tip: Keep a mini “panic plan” card in your bag or a list on your phone so you can refer to it in times of need.

These reactions are completely natural, hard-wired into our survival instincts. If you respond with panic or avoidance, it's not because you're weak or broken—it’s because your brain thinks it’s protecting you. One of the most healing realizations is this:

Don't blame yourself for your anxiety. Your body is not betraying you—it’s trying to protect you, just at the wrong time.

Routine & Lists: Micro‑Wins that Rewire the Brain

Writing lists helps to reduce anxiety by splitting up the job/day into manageable sections and gives a sense of pride in completion. Getting into a routine of mapping out your tasks or actions keeps you grounded. Seeing your day in an organised and achievable manner can create a calming effect and after finishing a task, whether it be getting items from the shop, making a phone call or writing this blog, a relaxing “I’ve done that” feeling follows.

An accomplishment truly does allow you to take more control and compartmentalize your day into digestible sections.

• Morning roadmap: Spend five minutes writing a realistic to‑do list. Checking items off releases dopamine, teaching your brain that you can complete tasks without catastrophe. You can try Discovery Journals Thought Tamer for this (Left). It will help you get into the routine of setting realistic goals and self rewarding.

• Time‑blocking: Cluster similar tasks (calls, errands) to reduce decision fatigue.

• Evening brain dump: Clear mental clutter before bed, write unresolved worries, do some backtracking or simply have a brain dump Your mind rests when it knows the thoughts are stored safely. Discovery Journal can help you with this as well! By just ticking boxes and rating out of ten you can create a clear picture of your day, without having to go into great detail and unload your soul. You can always return to it at a more peaceful time.

Long‑Game Lifestyle Tweaks

I know everyone always bangs on about lifestyle when it comes to mental health—but here’s the thing: it really does matter. The mind and body are deeply connected, and when your body is in survival mode, your brain follows. Here are some foundational habits that support anxiety reduction:

Lifestyle Habit	Why It Helps
Exercise	Movement (especially cardio or yoga) releases endorphins and regulates stress hormones.
Sleep	Aim for 7–9 hours. Lack of sleep increases anxiety sensitivity and impairs emotion regulation.
Balanced Nutrition	Stabilize blood sugar with slow carbs and protein. Avoid stimulants like caffeine or high sugar.
Hydration	Even mild dehydration can mimic anxiety symptoms like dizziness and irritability.
Digital Detox	Social media and news exposure overstimulate the brain. Try screen-free blocks or app timers.

Even minor improvements in these areas can make a noticeable difference in how frequently and intensely anxiety strikes.

When to Seek Professional Help

If your anxiety is interfering with work, relationships, or basic routines, even after trying various strategies, it’s time to get professional support. This is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Therapeutic options include:

• Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) – Helps challenge unhelpful thought patterns and build practical coping skills.

• Exposure Therapy – Gradual exposure to feared situations helps reduce avoidance behaviour and panic.

• Integrative Therapy – Blends multiple therapeutic approaches. Particularly useful for those with long-term trauma, phobias, or co-occurring mental health conditions like OCD or depression.

• Medication – Sometimes necessary, especially when anxiety is severe or persistent. Discuss options with a GP or psychiatrist.

Key Takeaways

1. Understand your anxiety through journaling, therapy, and observation—not judgment.

2. Normalize your stress responses—you’re not broken; you’re wired for survival.

3. Use grounding and breathing tools to manage panic in real time.

4. Write it down—the Discovery Journal helps decode your unique triggers and track progress.

5. Create structure—lists and routines offer daily mental relief.

6. Don’t underestimate lifestyle—small daily changes = big impact over time.

7. Professional help is powerful—especially for complex anxiety rooted in trauma or long-standing patterns.